Most of the frustration we feel in relationships comes down to one thing: unrealistic expectations.
We expect people to read our minds. We expect others to always be kind, thoughtful, available, consistent, or strong. We expect them to help us when we need it and to be gracious to us when we disappoint them.
The reality is…
People let each other down. All the time.
And, be honest, a lot of your hurt, anger, frustration, or disappointment in life is a result of this.
But Scripture reminds us to think soberly (Romans 12:3)—that means honestly, humbly, and with self-awareness. Just as we aren’t perfect, neither is anyone else.
It’s one thing to hold people accountable to realistic and reasonable expectations, especially when commitments have been made and the other party has the capacity to fulfill those commitments.
But too often we don’t consider other people’s capacities, competencies, or circumstances. We only think of our wants and needs.
Paul tells us to consider the needs of others (Philippians 2:4), which includes the emotional bandwidth, burdens, and limits that people carry. The truth is, many of the people in your life are doing the best they can.
That’s why Psalm 62:5 is such a powerful anchor:
“My expectation is from Him.”
We must learn to place our deepest hopes—not in people—but in God. He is steady. He is faithful. And He alone is able to carry the full weight of our trust.
So today, if you’re feeling disappointed by someone (family member, boss, co-worker, church, pastor, teacher, whoever)… pause. Ask yourself: Was I expecting too much?
And then gently release that person from expectations only God can fulfill.
People are imperfect and limited. God is perfect and all-powerful.
Keep loving others. Keep showing grace.
But let your soul wait on God—and let your expectation be from Him.
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