Domestic violence is not new. It has tragically been around for all of human history. What does the Bible say about abuse?
Victims of domestic violence should know that the Bible contains clear, unmistakable declarations against any form of physical or verbal abuse. Those who seek to justify abuse by turning to the pages of the Bible are guilty not only of harming others, but also of distorting God’s Word to suit their nefarious and deplorable actions.
Scripture References Related to Abuse
The Bible repeatedly calls on people to show kindness, generosity, and love to one another, and specifically condemns the abuse of wives and children. Here are a few Scripture references related to abuse and the proper treatment that husbands, in particular, should extend to a wife:
- “So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church.” ~Ephesians 5:28-29, NKJV
- “Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice.” ~Ephesians 4:31, NKJV
- “Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them.” ~Colossians 3:19, NIV
- “In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat her with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. If you don’t treat her as you should, your prayers will not be heard.” ~I Peter 3:7, NIV
- “The mouth of the righteous is a well of life, but violence covers the mouth of the wicked.” ~Proverbs 10:11, NKJV
- “So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath; for the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God.” ~James 1:19-20, NKJV
The Bible also exhorts fathers not to provoke their children to wrath (Ephesians 6:4) and to see children as a blessing and “heritage” from the Lord (Psalm 127:3).
The Bible also promises God’s attention to the poor, needy, and oppressed (Psalm 22:24; Psalm 140:12; Psalm 103:6) and exhorts God’s followers to support and help those suffering affliction (Isaiah 1:17; Hebrews 13:3).
What Should Victims of Abuse Do?
Paul gives general advice on how Christians should deal with ill treatment. In his letter to the church in Rome, he writes: “If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men” (Romans 12:18, NKJV).
In the case of physical abuse or serious verbal abuse, it’s my opinion that Paul would say such ill treatment exceeds one’s capacity to “live peaceably” in that situation.
It’s my contention that victims of abuse should seek help — first obviously from God through prayer, but also from those capable of extending support and assistance.
There comes a point when it’s simply not possible to live at peace. When that point comes, the biblical principle of protecting oneself and others kicks in (Psalm 82:4; Proverbs 24:11; Nehemiah 4:12-14).
It grieves me deeply that so many people today face abuse or violence at the hands of those they should be able to trust and depend on. May we all join our hearts in prayer that God shield and protect the victims, and that those guilty of such abuse or violence be held accountable and get the help they need.
If you or someone you know may be facing abuse, please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233) as soon as possible.
God bless you.
